Category: Singles Spit Swap
I'm single and if you like my profile contact me. However I don't think putting this on a board helps people find someone. You have to know the person well and that is very hard online. However I thought I would tried. I could be wrong.
Could be!
I'm single too. Now we have 2 entries on this.
Smile.
lol.
so, tell people about yourself.
what do you like about yourself? what do you look for in a partner?
Me, or her? Lol
I think chelslicious meant me forereel. Okay here it goes. I usually remains reserved around others, and do not open up very much. However, I have a need to talk things over with others in order to make decisions, so I do really need some close confidantes in my life. I am either an istj or an isfj personality wise. I have never been able to figure out which. If you do not know what that is google it. As far as what I like about myself, well I am not used to answering that because I try not to have a big ego so I do not know what to say here. I have very high standards for my own behavior and the behavior of others. I take commitments very seriously. I cannot stand when people make a commitment to something and then do not follow through. I cannot stand procrastinators or dense people. I like that I am a driven person. As far as what I am looking for in a partner, well I want someone that is serious, respectful, stable, practical, and down-to-earth. I also want someone that does not drink alcohol, does not smoke, does not do any illegal drugs, and does not have a criminal record. I am a serious, stable, practical, down-to-earth herson. I also do not drink alcohol, do not smoke, do not do any illegal drugs and I do not have a criminal record. I also want someone that has similar interests and perspectives as me. I need someone that gives positive feedback because in the absence of positive feedback, or in the face of criticism, I feel attacked and hurt.
I was tempted to tease some more, but I'll be good.
Smile.
Thanks forereel.
yes, Wayne, I was referring to the original poster, not you.
anyway, original poster, if you don't like to tell people about yourself, what your good qualities, attributes, ETC, are, how can you expect others to wanna find out more about you?
I know that's likely something you won't wanna hear, but it's something that you need to hear.
also, has it ever occurred to you that you have really high standards?
I know that's also something that you won't wanna hear, but I feel it needs to be said.
I think you're more likely to find someone of interest if you just get to know people for who they are, whether they're alcoholics, smokers, whether they back out of things, due to unforeseen circumstances they have to deal with, or whatever.
sometimes, being different from one another, at least in some areas, really allows for great discussion, where all involved can share their differing perspectives on things, and still have a mutual respect, and even love, for each other.
I think she has stated her standards in a good fashion.
If she doesn't like smoking or smoker, for example, she's not going to enjoy dating a person that smokes.
Why do it if you think it bothers you?
He could be a really nice guy, but everytime he lights up, she'll only see his smoking.
she may still like him as a person, but she'll never know, cause she won't even give him a chance.
not everyone has to have dating potential, and not everyone should have it.
that's all I'm saying, is that it's good to have friends, too, so you can see what develops, rather than just getting to know someone only cause you might wanna date them.
True, but here she's looking for a date, not a friend, so she's laid out her wants for that.
Chelslicious it seems like you want to break apart every post I have been making and I know this is your personality because I did read your profile so here it goes even though I know it will not be to your liking. I said what I could if someone does not like it or they think it is not enough then they do not have to like me. I think you think I am more sensitive than what I am. I do not mine hearing what you said but it is not helping. I said what I could. I already said that I have high standards and I have more standards then what I put up on the board but the stuff I put up are things I am not willing to compromise on. If someone does not like that, they do not have to contact me. As far as friends, I can tolerate smoking and drinking alcohol and people who are not serious. However, as a partner I cannot. In addition, I agree that being friends first is better. I do not want to just date someone first. I agree with forereel on how I stated my standards and how I will feel every time he lights up or drinks.
I disagree with what you said about it being hard to know someone online. It takes some more communication amongst the two perhaps, and maybe if communication isn't a strong hold for you it might be harder. However for any relationship to work communication has to be there. In an LDR it is important to talk to the other person to give them an idea of what you believe, how you are feeling, what might be bothering you, etc. It doesn't mean that it is harder to know a person.
no, I am not out to personally attack you.
as I said in my posts, I realize that such things are hard to hear, especially when you seem to really want something. however, just as you don't wanna sacrifice having such high standards, I'm not gonna stop sharing my opinion, as that's what the boards are here for.
DistanceRunner337 People can be whoever they want to be online so I'm untrusting.
Chelslicious no I know you are not just out to attack me, you are out to attack everyone. You say you are here to share your opinion. No your here to start controversy, a flaming war, and drama which I want no part of.
You'll meet someone. There are many with your same views, so you're not odd or whatever.
Good luck.
thank you so very much forereel.
What are you untrusting of? If you don't trust the idea of finding someone online, I don't understand the point of this topic, unless you were just trying to start a discussion and speak in general terms.
I was just putting it out there and if it happens it happens and if it does not then it does not.
Hi,
You may have just found that right person! My name is Nathan, from Virginia, studying history; alcohol, smoking, and illegal drugs are something I don't tolerate, nor procrastination. Everyone who criticizes this person, she will find what she is seeking eventually. If you want to know more, message me.
Nathan.
Not saying that I haven't tried alcohol, smoking, or stuff like that, but I've tried them, and never really enjoyed them. Maybe one drink every once in a while, but that's it. I never drink to get drunk, or "make" problems disappear.
I think that's giving her a false sense of hope to say that she'll certainly find what she's looking for.
I'm just trying to be realistic about things. I'm not trying to rain on anyone's parade.
all I'm getting at, is that what she's looking for is rare to find, and when you look so hard, you likely will only be disappointed in the end.
Do the math: 8.5 billion people, take 49% of that and you have all the males. Cut that down to the eligible age range, you still have billions. Then, cut out a few other things to make for a match, you probably still get a billion. Hell even several hundred million? Odds are, she'll find it / him. It's finbe to be skeptical, hell I am, but do the math first. Finding someone to have a relationship is statistically likely to happen for a majority of people.
Okay, after talking to this user, she has incredibly high standards. "I'm not supporting you, and not using my current degree." Did I ask for you to support me? No, I just wanted to talk. Sheesh, what the hell is your problem.
Lets see 1, you said you did not want drama but you posted parts about our conversation on the board. That says a lot about you. And 2, a lot of guys like people with degrees to support them. Sorry if you can not handle reality or me.
a lot of guys like women to...? and what about you, PW? oh, but, that sort of thing doesn't apply to you, now does it?
Good luck finding someone, because you obviously had a problem to begin with when I first started to you. If you never let someone get to know you, how in the fuck do you expect a relationship? Bitch!
Wow, all this aside, responding with such hate doesn't do your own singles ad all that much good. we all have problems. Some just hide them better than others.
We have a love connection
Lol. And the wheel continues to turn,
Backwards too.
Guess I'd not date you Nathan. Smile. She's right, your conversation was private unless you agreed it wasn't.
as far as I'm concerned, conversations are always treated as being private, which they should be, unless explicitly told otherwise.
Oh wow, before I chime In here, let me state that I'm
totally not looking.
I am, or was , before i read this, very bored. I think,
at the very worst, Chelseas comments were of
constructive critism, and from my observations, it
appears as a genuine attempt to give you guidance.
I do think that your negativity and mistrust, in
general, will make it immensely harder to obtain the
goal you've set forth apon. I think, given your
views, you should revise your posting to potentially
include men that are relatively local and leave out
the option of any sort of an LDR. And hardy, notice I
said man, not boy, as the former seems to be
something that you've yet to achieve. Maybe in the
far distant future, you may have a small shot of
rectifying this, well perhaps, anyway. One can
always dream, correct? And to the original poster,
my gift to you, some positive affirmation. My
statements here are not of concrete fact, but only
opinions. There is the microscopic possibility that I
could be utterly wrong, but then again, you seem
very adapted at glancing through microscopes, but
then again, these are just the opinionated ramblings
of a formerly bored man.
Thanks for all the contributations from all.
And now that I've read this, I think I'm going off to
smoke, drink, and so some illegal drugs.
you are right, tech dude, that everything I said was meant as constructive criticism.
I love how this turned out as an attempt to meet new people and turned into a bitch-fest. It's hilarious. The zone in a microcosm.
I'm single too, and reading this has simply reinforced my determination to have as little to do with any of you as possible.
Happy love hunting kids, let me know when it all ends in tears.
lmao!
Good thing I'm not lesbian...this bitch sounds like a man anyhow. No wonder why they don't find her interesting along with her crazy standards.
Play nicely, Lakeria.
Nicely? What is that? :p
Nope! She's vary much a woman. Smile.
This is a pretty old topic, and I'm sure that she has moved on with her life hopefully. When i communicated with her, there was no indication that the conversation was meant to be kept private. She just seemed like someone who has very high standards. I think I like being single--makes things a lot simpler.
Oh wow, Dan said it best. Happily single, folks. This board was a great read though.
No, but in all sincerity, I hope everyone finds what they're looking for. Yeah happiness, and all that.
and illegal drugs.
Wow ... can't believe this has turned into such a mess. One of the many reasons I'm glad I'm happily married.
All the illegal drugs, Sarah. Lets do it.